Monday, December 13, 2010

True Home Decor...tip on creating a Godly home

In the book The Greatest Place on Earth, the author talks about the christian home and how to transform it into a "Kingdom Outpost."  Here is a list of some practical things you can do in your home with your children and spouse...

*Supper time made into a time of worship...Ask each person, "What did you hear god say today?" Teaches us to listen for God and that He does speak to us.
*Prayer basket...add any request you hear of into a simple basket, each person pull one out during meals & pray for the person on your slip of paper
*Control the TV...if it uses the Lords name disrespectfully or isn't wholesome, turn it off
* Church is not negotiable..Its Gods idea
*Everyone has a bible for their own age or reading level
*Bedtime scripture, memorization
* Talk about God...If you love Him then you will speak about Him
* People should feel special in your home
* If you whine you automatically lose any argument
* Dads respected, mom is loved, and children are nurtured
* No interruptions at dinner…phone and TV turned off…everyone helps cleans up
*No sarcasm..idol talk, course jokes
* Repent and forgive in front of your kids
* Consider everyone better then yourself
*Be generous to each other
* No lying....no "simple white lies"  A lie is a lie!
* Display grace & mercy…grace: get what you don’t deserve; mercy: don’t get what you do deserve
* Never talk about another Child's good qualities in areas that your kids could never achieve..same goes with your spouse
* Always use names when talking not “he” or “she”
* Nicknames to build each other up
*”Team Miller”  Have a team family name...
*Bless your children with the Lords name.  "I bless you, Ilana Myah Schlichter in the name of Jesus Christ"
*What I love about you…instead of saying an easy, “I love you”
*Happy thoughts before bed, (can they hear the tv…be careful what they hear before bed)
*Say I love you by name
* Always say thank you…using manners
*Create laughter...Even at yourself but never laugh at your children or at your spouse
*With kids:    Don’t react quickly…think first then discipline
            -Have direct words...Get to the point “that unacceptable, you’re in danger” when disciplining
            -Discipline must hurt in order for them to think 2ce about them doing it again
            -Discipline must be private and prompt, talk at eye level
            -During discipline use no yelling and foolish threats
            -Explain rules: When do you obey? The 1st time...When do I discipline if you don’t?  The 1st time.
            - No punishment for telling the truth the 1st time, consequences but not punishment
            - “We are on your side”
            -Kids are free to fail

*With your family always chose nutrition over convenience
* Dress modestly
* Home is a safe place to speak freedom to express but not be disrespectful
 
Our goal as a family should be to create a safe haven for our family members...a place within the world where they are not judged, ridiculed, and most importantly loved beyond measure.  We also can be that to a hurting friend or stranger...we can be a Kingdom Outpost to everyone around us.